LOSING A SISTER. The mere phrase makes me bow my head and mumble words of desperate hope to never confront such a tragedy. And yet, of course, we’ve all lost sisters, whether biological or befriended, and the chill of it stays with us forever. News came last week of the loss of a friend, the loss to all who knew her of a fine, brave woman, mother and sister. Lost to breast cancer. We are bereft, and reach out as we can to sisters everywhere to bang your drums, or shake your fists, pray, mourn, remember, or do what it is you do when another fine woman is taken by this – or any – dreadful disease. [click to continue…]

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A SISTER-FRIEND FROM OUR extended network, writer and yoga instructor Joely Johnson Mork, sent us the following piece back in December, during which time all of us were otherwise engaged making other kinds of lists. But I keep thinking of Joely’s offering, and wanted to share it. One week after a loss she was certain she would never write about, the death of her best friend, I asked Joely, a former student in my memoir-writing class, if she thought she could simply bring in a list of thoughts related to the event. She actually she wrote a series of three lists, about her last visit with Mary. I offer them here, in another busy time of year, to again help us take stock of what we value. [click to continue…]

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The List That Helps With Loss

by marionroach on December 8, 2008

IT’S THE HOLIDAYS, the season to make lists. I had planned to write about that, as in what’s on my list/what’s on Margaret’s. But in The Sister Project’s first week online, so many of you emailed and commented about another topic that I’m moved to take it on here. The topic? Missing your sister at this time of year. [click to continue…]

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